Have you ever noticed how some people become so stressed out during periods of transition and change – while others can just go with the flow? What it boils down to is emotional resilience. There are several traits that you can start implementing into your own life today to live with less resistance and more ease:
Here are 9 things that emotionally resilient people do when they are faced a difficult situation:
1. Taking A Moment For Pause Instead of Acting Impulsively
This is all about impulse control – the ability to stop and consider whether you want to act on a desire. For example, when someone makes you angry or upset, your immediate response might be to lash out.
Impulse control allows you to take a moment for pause and decide what the best course of action will be in the long run. When you delay gratification and control your urges – it allows you to choose actions and behaviors that line up with your best intentions.
When we’re faced with a difficult situation, it can be hard to see the big picture. Here’s a new perspective: Sometimes things happen FOR you, not TO you. Do you see the difference?
What may seem difficult and painful right now might be a gift in the long run.
Sometimes when people hear the word acceptance – they cringe. Acceptance is not the same as complacence. Acceptance is not about giving up and letting stress and low-energy emotions take over. It’s far from that. Rather, acceptance is about experiencing emotions and trusting that what you’re experiencing will not last forever.
4. Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable
Jillian Michael’s belts this phrase out in her workout DVDs all the time! Those who are emotionally resilient choose to get comfortable being uncomfortable.
When you get comfortable with being uncomfortable, you’re building emotionally resiliency. Think of it like this– rather than lashing out and saying something mean when you’re angry with someone – instead, you take a moment to pause. Instead of making a hasty decision, you take time to accept what the situation is and is not.
5. Let Go Of Having To Know It All
When we are faced with a challenging situation and there is no clear answer available, our brains get turned on and manically try to find the answer. Our brains do not like the unknown or uncertainty.
But sometimes, when we focus on having to know it all right now, we become blind to the notion that we may not be ready for the answers we seek. The emotionally resilient folks remember that it’s okay to not have it all figured out.
You know what emotionally resilient people do different? They make self-care non-negotiable. Self-care to them is a daily practice and commitment to their mind, body and spirit that helps strengthen themselves from the inside out.
7. Get Your Giggle On
Let’s be frank and blunt here – sometimes situations just suck. Humor can go a long way when you need it the most!
Emotionally resilient people honor the notion that time heals. For example, people who may have depressive tendencies often hold a fear of falling back into depression. But for the emotionally resilient person – they know the difference between experiencing an emotion and not getting caught up in it.
9. Choose Your Focus
You have heard it before and if you continue to read this blog (we hope you do!), you’ll hear it again: Where attention goes, energy flows.
Rather than focusing on what you do not want – focus on what you want more of. Focus on the positive versus the lack of.
Emotional resilience is all about attitude. By practicing these 9 responses to stressful and difficult situations, you can spend more time living with ease and focusing on a positive way of being.